We had the threads on is it ever ok for a woman to hit a man or a man to hit a woman...

But is it acceptable to hit a child to you?   
Did you get beatings? 

No. There's always another way to solve a problem. Most children don't know better and hitting them will make them think it's okay to hit people.

People say that those kids that were beat turned out for better (respectful in a way). People say that those kids that weren't beat turned out greedy, disrespectful in a way. I don't tend to think of things that way but I think the parents and the situation have to be evaluated for us to judge where it's fair or not to beat a kid. Obviously many parents beat for no reason but sometimes there is a reason we don't know about. My honest opinion is that they should not be beat but I would be willing to 'understand' if someone was, speaking from a point where I was barely beat as a kid.

only if they be a lil bitch or retarded

Matt Ryder wrote:

only if they be a lil bitch or retarded

Yeah, like he should have been beaten a lot

NO!

No, people who do that are stupid. The kids only turn out for the worst

Alright. I debated posting in this topic with myself for a solid amount of time and I decided I would. I'm going completely out of character for this one (yes, half the time in chat I'm in character, I'm not that big of a douchebag) so this is going to be pretty real. It's a long story, but I'll try to condense it the best I can.

My parents divorced when I was a toddler. I can't remember the exact age, but I do know I don't have a single memory of them being together. The earliest memories I can remember are of my Dad being single and my Mother being remarried to her second husband, Rob. My Mom and Dad never laid a hand on me. There were always the threats. "Get over here before I give you a whoopin'!" Shit like that. That always worked, I mean, nobody wants to get whooped. Rob, on the other hand.

Well, Rob liked to kick the shit out of me. The first time I can remember him putting his hands on me was when I was 6. It was over something completely trivial: I didn't draw him into my family picture I made in class. Yeah. It was a quick swat to the back of the head. It hurt. I was a little kid. This was only the beginning.

See, Rob had a knack for taking his frustrations out on the old bottle, and in turn, me. He was very controlling and had to have everything his way or he raged, and raged often he did. Everything from making me call him Dad to not finishing my plate at dinner. And before anyone chimes in, he never gave me a spanking. He hit me. And kicked me. And threw me. Enough to bruise and draw blood. Eventually it became noticeable, and when my Father found out, as you can imagine, he wasn't happy. Police were notified, however my Mother took the side of Rob and covered for him. It took him to start beating on her for her to leave him, months later. Right cunt she is, and this plays a large role in why I do not talk to her.

So to answer your question, no, it's not okay to hit kids. There are better methods to discipline that will teach them without fucking 'em up.

peace one love

How I was raised I get when I act out in public or do something horribly wrong. To me hitting your child is somewhat of a good form of discipline and pretty old fashion. It's suppose to be a way to straighten out your kids from preventing them from making the same mistake. Plus you are stop to getting whoopings when you are like 10-12 because by then you are able to reason with a child from right and wrong . so I believe to hit a child at a certain degree and with the intent on correction and reforming or shaping their behavior.

I got beat like once maybe twice, most of the time my punishments would be having to stay on my knees looking at a wall for a period of time because my school fights were mostly minor and I was the one she could count on to wake her up in time for work because I liked helping her. We all got beat, my sister even got sent to live with our grand parents in Haiti for a time period, my brother got the most beatings because he'd never stop being dumb but we all turned out very differently anyways. I understand why my mom did it since she didn't have time due to working night shifts and raising us alone, but at the end of the day occasional beatings as a quick fix to wrongs isn't that effective. 

There's no simple answer to this question in my view. You have to get to know your child and realize what type of discipline and conversation will help them, if they can be helped at all. People often forget that some brats just have shitty temperaments that change very little regardless of what is done.

No child should ever be hit out of anger. If you're going to hit your child, it's gotta be systematic where the child knows what they did was severely wrong and requires punishment. Also, it has to actually be severely wrong. The point of hitting should be that ''last straw'' punishment, because honestly taking things away is much more effective of a punishment.

With that said hell yeah i get my ass whooped by my mom, out of anger or for anything. Thats just the way it went in her family, but she was loving so i never felt betrayed. My spankings were like slap-stick, its like she could whoop me with a switch and id be back doing the same shit i did before, or pretending like nothing happened. My dad rarely ever hit me doe. I guess it doesnt make a difference since Im still a low down bastard, but I think its good to have several diff methods of reinforcing character.

For reals, nah man. I don't know your definition of hit but if you have a teen or pre teen going off on you and legit makes you feel bad, and raising your voice just heightens even more, hitting wont do anything. They just gonna keep on doing it til they get a rise out of you or get what they want. Just listen to em and uh, that word... Compromise.

I think as a parent, hitting a child is alright at times. I likely will never do it, but I don't think it's bad.

It's not always bad to do so as long as there's a reasonable explanation. But I for one probably wouldn't do it.

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It's okay to hit children at your own risk, but whatever amount of effectiveness it has will be mitigated by the ensuing consequences you have to deal with in modern society if your child says you beat them to an outside party. Personally, I don't think it's an effective method of discipline both having experienced it myself as a child and observing other parents & children who have been through it. 

In fact, you know what? Fuck it. Beat your kids. Beat your husband. Beat your wife. Beat your girlfriend. Beat your boyfriend. Beat your kid's kid. Beat everyone.

Physical punishment isn't against the law if it doesn't leave a mark for more than 24 hours, if it's open handed and you aren't using some sort of foreign object to hit the child

I'd beat the shit out of my son if he was as disappointing as Voltage is

My Dad never beat me or my brothers. Nor would I ever be whatever offspring of mine comes out of Laura's pussy. 

Except in Hockey. Then they're pretty much fucked

My mom hit me and my siblings to teach us a lesson or to make us shut up/behave in front of guests. Shit, sometimes she still does, although she hasn't really hit me in years since I'm too old for that shit lol. 

The niggas saying no are probs white and pussies lmao. I've seen far too many times my friend or just someone I know (white boys and girls) going OFF on their parents and getting no punishment. If I even said one word in defiance to my mom, I'd be 6 feet under but these kids will straight up curse out their mom or some crazy shit. That's when your ass gets spoiled and annoying, and you probably weren't punished as a kid. So yes it is okay to extents and depending on the situation because otherwise the whole world would be bratty af.

Its about as okay to hit a child as it is to hit a woman

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Just saying, physical abuse doesn't always result in good child behavior. I was pretty much maimed as a kid and all that did was make me twice as defiant. If you have to be beaten in order to behave correctly, chances are you weren't a very smart kid. Not that it should be expected from children, anyway, but you have serious issues if you think the best and most effective form of discipline is by punishing your children physically. I don't think parents who do it should be punished unless it's extremely severe, but if you don't wise up despite mountains of evidence indicating in a lot of cases that it doesn't do shit but make your kids feel unwelcome in their own home, that shit is on you. It was usually when my mom/dad would verbally accost me and kind of make me feel guilty that I'd understand what was up, thus becoming more willing to change my ways and shit. I got destroyed and it never "built character." It never did anything but piss me the fuck off and cause me to harbor unnecessary resentment that could have been fixed with a conversation. If beating your kids is an inherent part of your culture, chances are your culture is fucking garbage. I'm not saying never beat your kids, do what works, but if you find that something else works without all of the trauma & can still mold your children into being respectful individuals that don't scream and holler at their parents, that is always a better method.

No! I'm strictly against have a kid being beaten like that. Some kids generally fear their parents because of it, and to have your kids scared of being around you or even attempting something that goes against a parent's wishes, It's a cruel to ever do. And some cases it's the start of a kid looking at their parents the wrong way. I know people who never want to see their parents after they moved out because of how they got hit by their mom or dad. I've personally never been hit by my mom and dad cuz they both have been affected from previous slaps and etc. And they know how bad their relations with their parents were and they don't want to me and my siblings to be like them with their relations.

I believe that a parent's job is to guide a child to the right path till they can start making decisions for themselves but using physical violence is the worst way to do that. 

I'm especially against it if you're beating your kid to show that you are the person with all the power and the kids can't try to go above it. Having roots in a country where violence against a kid is just regarded as just a normal punishment, I've seen kids getting slapped. You can do a lot of other things then hit them.

Because here some things that happen because kids were slapped. They completely despise their parents or they start to become afraid of them.Another one is where they finally have had enough and hit back the parent

There is a difference between being abused, and needing to beat clocked. Kids are way too slick with their parents.  I was getting spanks and beatings as a kid. I would use that method on my children as well. I don't have time for children popping off the mouth. 

All in all, it just depends. Some parents take it overboard.